You’re not BARBIE and he’s not KEN!
Sometimes women mistakenly believe there is an ideal female image, and they should clone themselves to look like her.
Did you play with Barbie dolls when you were young?
You may subconsciously believe that the ideal woman has a tiny waist and proportionately over-sized boobs, all supported by feet that couldn’t hold up a 10 lb cat.
Maybe it wasn’t Barbie dolls, maybe it was the Disney princesses, who have the same anatomically unbalanced bodies.
Or maybe your ideal female image is Victoria’s Secret models (who are freaks of nature AND still air-brushed).
I want to emphasize that this exaggerated female image was planted in your brain subconsciously.
You weren’t aware of it then and… and might even deny it now.
However, you may still be functioning as if it’s true!
And here’s the really crazy part….most men don’t expect women to look like that!
In fact, many men are intimidated by exceptionally attractive women.
Oh, they’ll all look (and so do we), but men often believe that beautiful women are high maintenance.
It’s just like those Lamborginis they drool over.
Most men don’t actually want a high maintenance car that’s impractical to drive. (Unless they’re having a mid-life crisis and need a “trophy” to reinforce their self-esteem.)
In today’s world we are bombarded with unrealistic illusions of people and lifestyles.
At the same time, we are inundated with technology as an illusion of connection.
Most people are hungry (starving) for a real connection with a real person.
Studies show that loneliness kills more than cigarettes, alcohol, and obesity combined.
Yet, we often put on our “best face,” while yearning to be seen and accepted for who we really are.
Here’s the bottom line, if you are not authentic, you cannot be loved for who YOU are.
Connecting with a plastic image has only one possible outcome: plastic relationship.
Do you want to “keep up with the Khardashians?”
Our divorce rate is now up to 67%!
Don’t fall for it!
As Brene’ Brown advises, be vulnerable and be your real self!
PS. I’m not against plastic surgery, except when it’s used as a form of self-rejection.
For example, look at the unhappy and empty look on the woman’s face in the picture above.
Or think of Michael Jackson, who was a very attractive child, but apparently rejected his true self.
To Your Relationship Mastery,
Angeline & Dixon