The Right Way to Shop for A Man!

Are you shopping for a Man… like shopping for a car? Recently I was thinking about replacing my Lexus, with my dream car. I went to a couple of my favorite dealerships: Lexus and Mercedes. I knew exactly what I wanted for my…

Do you know the SMART way to RECEIVE a gift?

Yesterday I was chatting with the cashier as I left Loews. I asked if he was ready for Christmas and he said, "yes." "Really," I said, "you've done ALL your shopping?" "Yeah," he said, "I just get everybody gift cards." "Well,…
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Does it mean he doesn't love you if....

Does it mean he doesn't love you if.... he didn't give you the gift you wanted? Maybe your man got the wrong size, wrong color, or even the wrong item. Maybe you tried to help him by leaving little hints. Like leaving…

What are your RULES for dating?

You are probably aware there is a book about the RULES of dating. Actually there are many books about the rules of dating. They usually include suggestions such as, "when he rings the doorbell, wait a few minutes before answering,…

Detachment vs Connection - what Gottman says...

You probably know that I am a big fan of John Gottman, the internationally famous relationship expert. A lot of his ideas are in many of the messages I send to you. But today, I am sending you a message directly from his Institute. This…
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Should I let him chase me, or treat him badly?

A few days ago, I received the following email from a client. "My girlfriend recently was treated badly by a man she thought was going to be a long-term partner. She then decided that she gave too much love and affection and that she…
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The AWFUL truth about Relationships

Seems like people want to believe that if you find “the right one” then everything will be all sunshine and roses. In that scenario, the conflicts are easily resolved, there’s never hurt feelings or anger, and the sex is amazing. So,…
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You're not BARBIE and he's not KEN!

You’re not BARBIE and he’s not KEN! Sometimes women mistakenly believe there is an ideal female image, and they should clone themselves to look like her. Did you play with Barbie dolls when you were young? You may…

I Can't Find Any GOOD Men!

My best friend was really frustrated! She said, "I've been dating a LOT, but I can't find any good men!" Personally, I could always find good men to date, and other women had asked me for help, so, I said I’d help her.…

Why Do You Keep Attracting the WRONG Men?

Why do you keep attracting the WRONG men? First, here's the bad news: If you were raised in a dysfunctional family (and most of us are to some degree), you are carrying baggage. As children, we are open and vulnerable to the…