According to Aristotle, there are five primary senses:
- and … Smell
And some people believe we also have a 6th sense, called extra-sensory perception. It’s the means by which we navigate and interpret the things going on around us. We connect with the world through our senses. It’s also through our senses that we strengthen our connection with others.
Have you noticed, when reading romance novels (which I like to do, along with mysteries), they often describe the female characters with phrases like this: she noticed his unique scent, or she felt his heat when sitting near him? Or they describe the taste when kissing, or feeling electricity when their fingers touch. All of these are descriptions to heighten YOUR experience as you read.
In our busy lives, perhaps it would be good to heighten our own sensual experience on a daily basis, so that we can LIVE a fuller experience, rather than just read about it.
Live a Fully Sensual Experience
An often-used suggestion is to slow down and take time to smell the roses. Tuning in to your senses is a way to reduce stress and enhance tranquility. It’s a way to increase your mindful experience in the moment. With a rose, you have the opportunity to employ both your sense of vision and touch as you see the color and feel the texture of the rose petals. Adding awareness of fragrance expands the experience even further, as you take time to enjoy the simple delight of “smelling the rose.”
I suggest you look for MORE ways to activate your senses all during the day.
Be intentional about expanding your sensual experience in every moment. For example, I like to light scented candles in my home office. And at night, I diffuse essential oils to enhance my rest as I drift toward sleep.
I remember a friend telling me that she chooses clothes based on how they feel. She wanted her clothes to have a silky sense of touch and that had never occurred to me. I only paid attention to how they looked, and especially how they made me feel.
Now, I am aware of the touch of the fabrics against my skin. When it comes to touch, I am a bit of a fanatic about my bed sheets. The feel of synthetics is very uncomfortable for me as I sleep and I don’t want to sound snobby, but it makes a big difference if the sheets are high quality cotton! (like Egyption cotton, 1000 thread count!)
Many people talk about the energizing effect of music, how it can lift your mood, or get your toe tapping to the beat when you’ve been feeling gloomy. You can create a play list of your favorite tunes to play at key times during the day.
For example, to create a positive start to your day, or during your drive home as you transition from work. When I watch movies of people living a “beautiful life” they are always accompanied by a beautiful sound track.
Lately, I’ve been consciously choosing to create a beautiful life for myself. So, I ask Alexa “to play soft jazz” or I play Pandora in the background when I’m working on my home computer.
You can look at your daily rituals and find ways to consciously enhance them by being aware of the effect on your senses. When you set the table, you can choose pretty dishes (sight) with lovely linens (touch), and beautiful flowers (smell) for a center piece.
In your nightly bath, you can add scented bath salts (smell) and light some pretty candles (sight).
When we are fully living in a sensual experience, we tend to be happier and feel more joy.
What other ideas do you have for increasing your sensual connection with your world and its people?
To Your Relationship Mastery,
Angeline & Dixon
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