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Why do you keep attracting the WRONG men?

First, here's the bad news: If you were raised in a dysfunctional family (and most of us are to some degree), you are carrying baggage. As children, we are open and vulnerable to the attitudes and behaviors around us. We take them in,…

The AWFUL truth about Relationships

Seems like people want to believe that if you find “the right one” then everything will be all sunshine and roses. In that scenario, the conflicts are easily resolved, there’s never hurt feelings or anger, and the sex is amazing. So,…

What’s the Pebble in YOUR shoe?

(a metaphor about reducing emotional baggage) Imagine you are going on a gentle hike with someone you love. You lace up your hiking boots and put on a light jacket. You’re feeling good! It’s a beautiful day, the sun is warm, but not too…
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What’s the Biggest Obstacle to TRUE ROMANCE?

When I chat with singles about today’s dating scene, I usually hear a lot of complaints and frustrations. Women tell me about a lack of “good men” and negative experiences that include everything from false profiles to ghosting. Men tell…

Do you love the "Pina Colada" song?

I had to laugh when I read this brief article from The Gottman Institute...but it's got an important point! “Escape (the Piña Colada Song)” by Rupert Holmes is a beachy, karaoke favorite about a husband and wife who discover they were…
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I had to share this with you!

This is the BEST article I've ever read about relationships! It's a bit long, but totally worth the time to read it. I bet you'll find yourself in here...because I certainly did! Running Headlong into Heartbreak By Kerry Lusignan, MA,…
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Tomorrow can be a New Day

Tired of football games, nine whooping guys, spilled salsa and chips, chicken wing stains on your sofa, and the new love of your life didn’t lift a finger to help clean up? Stacked dishes, dogs racing through the house, crumpled…
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Are you making excuses for Red Flags?

Red Flags are early signs your relationship might not work. Do you say these things to yourself? He’s nice, but he ignores or dismisses what I say…Oh well, he’s just got a lot on his mind. He criticizes the way I look… but I’m…
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Are you attracted to Fantasy Love?

When I was a Junior in High School, I “fell in love.” I was sure he liked me too! He was a football player, but not one of the bragging types. He was sweet and shy, mostly quiet. We had one class together, and I could tell his…
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What's your level of Emotional Honesty?

In our previous Newsletter we said there are two KEY Essential Behaviors necessary for building a healthy relationship. both people need to be emotionally honest, and both people need to be willing to do the work to build the relationship. Today…